Cat howling all the time now after death of feline friend

by Barbara
(Canada)

Missy giving a kiss to Ginger

Missy giving a kiss to Ginger

My cat Ginger is a 17 almost 18 year old domestic short hair orange tabby male. After the sudden death of our 15 year old female tortise shell domestic/ persian mix, he seemed to become very needy, and very vocal. He howls all day and all night, and i find it hard to sleep and get rested. I bring him to bed with me and that seems to settle him, but he only stays for a short time then leaves and starts to howl again. It is very painfull to listen to as he has never done this before, and I am still grieving for the loss of "Missy" and I think this is his way too. I'm not sure if he is calling her, or me. It seems he still looks for her. His appetite is good, I think he is lonely. The night that Missy had passed i slept in the spare bedroom with him as he felt more comfortable in there as that is where they slept. I also slept in there the next night as well. It has just been over a week, and it is getting worse every day. Is there anything i can do to help settle him? I dont want another cat right now i'm not over her yet and dont know when i will, but i dont know if he wants another friend.

I had missy for 3 great years, i took her from an animal hospital where her previous owner wanted to put her down as she couldnt keep her anymore. I was the receptionist there and the vet would not put down the poor girl so she asked the owner to surrender her to them and they would find her home, a week later i took her home and the two cats bonded quickly as i assume it was that they were close in age. Last year my cat Ginger stopped grooming
most of himself, so Missy stepped in to help. Now that she is gone i dont know if he will continue this behavior. I brush him every day. He still cleans his face and paws but not his body.
As I type this letter he is howling excessively and now has come now into my bedroom where i am and is sitting in the door way meowing, now he stopped to take a drink, as quickly as he finished he started again. I am really unsure of what to do whether i should let this pass or should I find him a new friend to keep him company as i work 10 hours a day. Please any advice or calming words are appreciated.

Thanks
-Barb

Answer by KAte
Hi
i am so sorry to hear of your loss, i know how painful it can be.

To answer your question. Cats do grieve for other feline friends and this is completely normal and will pass. It can be very distressing to see but it is a natural process which like our own grief has to take its own course. All you can do is to be there for them as much as possible and also to try and distract them with games and new toys etc for a while.

A new pet friend is not the answer and rarely helps in fact it often makes things worse.

i have a page about cat grief which you may find of further interest here

https://www.our-happy-cat.com/cat-grief.html

However your cats howling could also have something to do with his age. often as cats get older there eyesight or hearing may weaken and this can make them feel insecure and causes them to call out more. this is often worse at night time. Please see this page for more on this behavior.

https://www.our-happy-cat.com/senior-cat.html

I hope my pages are able to provide you with some help.

best wishes Kate

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